Saturday, February 20, 2010

"I call it Anne Frank Face."

So, here's the thing: I started this blog in high school.

I don't want to get all iCarly on your ass and get sentimental over an internet project that has about four readers (three of which are related to me, one of which is me), but I loved this blog. Somehow, I became the Gossip Girl of North Canyon High. Even teachers were checking it- and also stalking it, but that's a Chemistry-teacher-I-never-even-had-and-don't-understand-why-he-got-so-obsessive of a different color. However, like my Dickie pants, my gap teeth, and the Etnie shoes I don't have anymore, I have outgrown this blog, started wearing skirts, had braces, and have replaced tennis shoes with heels.

In short, like season 9 of Seinfeld, I know its time to end this blog. This chapter of my life is over.

However, you can still find me at the following links:

Extensive Vamping
Twitter
Flickr
Tumblr

So it's not like I'm going away; I'm just like Mary Tyler Moore after The Dick van Dyke show. I'm around.

Take care reader, and by that I mean, hi mom.

XOXO,
S

Friday, July 24, 2009

"That tears it."

At night, things get a little hazy. Not because the sun went down, but because for us artsy emo indie types, night time is the perfect time to start over thinking or over drinking or both. Me? I'm an over-thinker personally. That's just my style. That's how I get things I done. I love to sit and really analyze a day. What did he mean "oh, that's nice"? He may as well have been saying, "Give me your friend Katie's number!" You know, things like that.

It's also when I start a-thinkin' about my art form. (Um, writing. I can only draw stick figures.) This gets dangerous when you are in the vicinity of other artsy emo indie types who also think too much at night. You end up in long, deeply drawn out pretentious conversations where I start quoting, vinyl records start playing and pretty soon I'm fornicating with some GRE words I didn't even remember I knew that I just pull out of my big black bag the way the Mary Poppins might pull out a coat stand.

I am not sure if this is just a phase because I'm a liberal arts student, but I am kind of positive I've been pretentious and culturally driven all my life. I'm not saying I'm a know-it-all (but I kind of am) and I definitely have some learning and exploring and growing to do, but you're reading the thoughts of a girl who argued with her parents in first grade that she should be able to watch Roseanne because, "how else am I going to know what's going on? The morning news tells me nothing!" In second grade, I hid my Judy Blume like it was crack. I was deathly afraid my parents would find out that Stephanie in Here's To You Rachel Robinson was totally boy crazy and that there was a really kick ass make out scene I'd read over and over again in Deenie. It was my literotica. It was my hope. My hope that some day, if I ever got braces and started wearing make up, that I too would find an Asian best friend to go shopping with and make out with boys at the Homecoming dance. I didn't want Scoliosis though like Deenie. That wasn't part of my dream.

Anorexia was though.

No, I'm totally just kidding.

I done did grow up, America. I got my braces. I started wearing make-up, and now I'm doing all those fun things I saw in all of those rom-coms with Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks I used to watch. Oh yeah, America. I go to parties now. Just, maybe not the parties like you're thinking.

"I'm Joshua," a boy who doesn't look unlike Truman Capote, tells me.
"Can I call you Josh?" I ask, knowing it's bound to happen out of habit since I call my best gay friend Josh instead of Joshua.
"Absolutely not," Joshua says, and means it.
"Great," I reply.
"Joshua," Robyn pipes in, "When's your Feminist party?"
"Ooh," I turn to Joshua, "Can I invite myself? Wait, let me ask this question first; can I wear make up?"
Joshua looks agitated. "I don't know when it is," he answers. "Whenever Tom comes back."
"His Korean boyfriend," Robyn fills me in.
"Look," I say, "I'm all for women working and women suffrage, but I really believe that we should be able to you know, look nice and not butch -unless you're into that- and that, you know, maybe guys can pay for a meal once in a while?"
Joshua narrows his eyes at me, "Care to elaborate?" he asks. "You obviously know nothing about feminism." He spits his words at me like I'm a Goddamn Greyback and he just happens to be Abe Lincoln.
"I know plenty about feminism," I say, "It's birthin' babies I know nothin' about."
"Mm-hmm," he says in a very Malfoy kind of way. "What? Do you believe in the waves?" he rolls his eyes. "Did you take all of your classes at ASU?"
"No," I say, getting angry, "I took them all at Yale. I think that we are in a post-feminism era right now and that we can use traditional femininity as pastiche."
"Let me get this straight," Joshua says, "You think that women should use their sexuality to further advance? I think that is counter-intuitive and repulsive." He takes a sip of wine and I begin to try to argue my case using words like "empower," "discursive," "sagacious," and "conjecture," and phrases like, "spectacle as a form of resistance," and "male gaze," but Joshua shouts louder than I do and I give up.
I turn to Robyn, "This is the worst Woody Allen movie ever." She doesn't laugh. I think she's too horrified because she later admits to me, "I really love my boobs and I really love make up."

This is why I prefer coffee talk to parties, frankly. I have trouble keeping my opinions to myself and find that it's more fun to argue things and exchange ideas in a one on one setting. Ally and I, for instance, discuss the culture (and the epic fail of our culture in Arizona) constantly. We have grown up in an area that thinks turquoise is the beginning and end all of jewelery and if isn't denim, it isn't in fashion. Go two hours outside of Phoenix and I guarantee you will see someone with a mullet wearing plaid and packing heat. Actually, you may not even need to venture out of Phoenix to see that.

As a young girl, my elementary school always had Arizona week to try to teach us about the culture of our state, except, I'm not really sure why it was a week because it only ever took one short class period to tell us about the copper Arizona was known for and all about the OK Corral fight. Inevitably, following the lesson, some punk ass kids would then reenact the shoot out on the playground using fake guns and get suspended because of the zero tolerance rule. On Friday of that week, there'd always be a square dancing competition that my class never won (which was sad because I always wanted that class pizza party prize) and at the end of the ho-down the entire school would sing an off-key rendition of our state song, "I Love You, Arizona." I hated singing that, not just because I really couldn't sing a lick, which I couldn't, or because my music teacher was really mean, which he was, but because I felt like I was lying. Even at eight I always kind of thought I was supposed to grow up somewhere where maybe instead of square dancing competitions, everybody in the school did ballet and jazz. I apparently thought I was supposed to go to the school from Fame.

I learned later that it's not that Phoenix is so bad really. I like it here even though everything closes at eight at night and I get super proud when our sports teams win stuff even though I'm not into sports, like, at all. It's just that, well, a girl needs more than just museums dedicated to western art. I kind of crave a good air and space museum or even just a museum that didn't sell fake vomit in the gift shop. Our problem is that the state of our culture is the fact that we have no culture. Nearly everybody from Phoenix is a transplant, usually from the mid-west, who moved here because they retired and their son or daughter is now working at the Intel plant in town. They left their culture behind in Chicago for golf and Indian casinos. Their grandkids aren't getting any culture either because they're just on Facebook all the time. Meanwhile, I have to scour the net just to find out if or when a foreign movie is playing in my area. Ally is also always actively seeking knowledge and culture, we usually seek together, so high brow culture and low brow culture, we talk about it all. But we also go to ASU, and we also kind of dress like Kennedy is still in office. Sometimes, we even get mistaken for hipsters just because we have bangs.

"What are we?" I question, staring at a girl who looks like a boy wearing the same skinny jeans, thin cotton shirt, and slouchy boots as her metrosexual date at a trendy coffee shop. The oil from their hair alone could probably keep those Chanukkah lights burning for eight days and eight nights. "I mean, other than old fashioned."

"We're awesome," Ally declares simply, sneering a little at the couple who begin to make out except it looks more like someone just kissing themselves in the mirror. "That's gross," she notes quietly, and sips her drink. "Anyway," she flits her hand, dismissing the couple, "You're you. I'm me. We don't conform. We're not 'types,' whereas all these little hipsters in the coffee shop today," she motions, "are pretty much all alike in their desperate attempt to be different. Like, I didn't order soy milk for my latte just now? I swear, I got the meanest look from the barista."

"I believe you," I say. And I do, because it happened to me too.

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

"Oh that's right, she's your invisible girlfriend."

On the May 11th episode of David Letterman, Tom Hanks spoke about braving the cold DC weather along with a kajillion other people to witness Barack Obama’s historical January inauguration. He laughed as he showed the audience photos of his view of the swearing in, which consisted of a guy’s hat and not Obama at all. He admits to freezing his ass off and wondering, if only for a moment, if going from sunny and warm California to gloomy, wet, and cold DC had been a mistake. I remember thinking as I watched an inaugural close up of Obama in HD via CNN from my living room couch while still in my pajamas, “There’s no way in hell that -20 degree wind-chill is worth it. What am I? Some left over Mayflower pilgrim braving the cold winter?” Then I laughed and took another spoonful of Life cereal, which they totally didn’t have around the time John Winthrop wrote his “City Upon a Hill” sermon, but man, those pilgrims were missing out.

While I wasn’t exactly braving the harsh back east winter as a strong-willed Pilgrim might, I obviously did still have a drop of that left-over American Exceptionalism we’ve all come to love and accept like our gothic cousins we have to be nice to at Thanksgiving even though they have that giant ear gage our parents abhor. I was almost too busy thinking, Me, risking flu to watch American history when I can just watch it from TV? Isn’t a forty-two inch HD TV hooked up to a TiVo what God was talking about to the pilgrims when he said America was going to be the New Eden? It surely wasn’t port-a-potties or The View.

Now, with winter long gone, I have this amazing opportunity to see the president speak live, in person, and he's probably going to bring his teleprompter, too, and I am going to pay for laughing in the face of east coast frostbite. Pay for it in sweat, God help us all. I'm going to try not to think about how my house has central air.

Don’t get me wrong. Obama is my new bicycle and my new president and my current crush, but when it comes down to venturing out in extreme conditions for a guy, I get iffy. In March, when it was seventy degrees and I got my ticket for the Obama commencement speech, this seemed like a good idea. But, now it is the middle of May and as the weather man explains that the heat index in Arizona is going to be roughly the same as it actually is on the surface of the sun, I’m starting to wonder if I shouldn’t just watch the speech at home on my couch in my pajamas, if I’m so inclined, where I won't get burnt to a crisp, while simultaneously updating my Twitter with comparisons of Obama to Lincoln. (Example tweet: “Is it just me or does Obama have Lincoln’s chin?”)

Wednesday, May 06, 2009

"Don't thank me. Thank John Winthrope."

So, I think I have some explaining to do.



I haven't been writing as I ought, but hey, times, they are a changin'. I was always choosing between writing in here or writing an essay that I could get a grade for and well, I guess you know the rest.



Nobody's perfect.

I'll try my best to post something again within the month, I swear.

Thursday, October 16, 2008

"I hear they have more fun."

It's midterm season.



This means I've been dividing my time between studying and panicking.



Seems to be working out for me.




I'm trying to change up my life. Like, yesterday, I took a walk. You know, instead of riding my bike.



(Which, was stolen last Spring like my heart by Lee Pace.)



So I'm walking along having a fabulously good time singing She & Him to myself, pretending it's 1963 (or that I know what that looks like) and skipping practically because I am so excited about this weather, when I come face to face with a coyote.

Not of the cartoon variety.



Needless to say, I had to decide if I should fight or flight.

I done did flight. Fast. In tights and flats yet.

(Stephanie Sparer, after flighting)

Today I spent the day cooped up and studying. I came out only to tinkle and watch the debates.

Yeah, that's right. I'm political.



But, it's OK that today was spent remembering dates and places I won't go to and names I don't care about because my English workshop teacher came down with Chicken Pox (she's only six), so my English Workshop piece isn't due for another week. Jesus loves me!


Jealous?




Until next time.

Saturday, September 27, 2008

"Damn."

I didn't go away. I didn't disappear. I didn't get married. I didn't run off with Benjamin Braddock. Though, looking back, I probably should have.

I've been living life. "Finding myself" or whatever the hell you're supposed to do when you're in college. If finding yourself means sitting around waiting for 30 Rock to premiere, than yeah. I've been finding myself real good.

The truth is, I've been writing a lot. I just haven't been posting it. There are a slew of reasons for this. I'll give you a couple.

For one, it's hard to write things and then post them and then submit them to a class. Turns out, that's counted as plagiarism. Self plagiarism. The masturbation of the writing world.

Two is that I am having somewhat of an existential John Keats Crisis Moment where I don't know if I should be sitting at home writing and being really proactive with my very liberal totally for Obama art, or if I should be out and about picking up interesting things I can incorporate into my essays. I am, in all honesty, having a very difficult time figuring out if I should make art or live art.

I've also really gotten into poetry lately. I don't really look good in berets (head's too big), but I am thinking of changing my major. Again. This time to poetry. How much more pretentious can I get? Well, I'm taking a Shakespeare class this semester, so we'll see.

Stay turned, you nerds. I'll be here and there. After this semester is over you'll get a couple of new postings because I'll have nowhere else to post my creations after they are graded and stamped with a Bullshit University Seal of Approval. AKA, the condensation from the bottom of a Corona beer bottle.

Monday, May 19, 2008

"I think they heard me."

Doogie Howser M.D. holds a very special place in my heart. Not just because he was, in my book, the first official ‘blogger’, but because unlike Doogie, the little prodigy who loved school so much he finished medical school by age fourteen, I loved not going to school so much that I could sometimes convince my mother to let me stay home and watch Doogie reruns at eleven in the morning on TBS. The show, centering on Neil Patrick Harris as a teen doctor, was so the opposite of my life as a fourth grade nothing, that it captivated me. I could never win a spelling bee; much less treat some hypoglycemic kid who passed out at one. At fourteen, I couldn’t even spell hypoglycemic. Also, I never got to say things to sick kids my age like, “Dude, getting a new heart will be so prime!”

But, I wish I did.

All my life, my lack of interest in getting up early-ish to obtain an education has been a chronic problem. I lived two minutes from my elementary school, but that didn’t stop me from running in late nearly every day to class. By sixth grade, I didn’t even bother to stop in at the front desk of the school anymore to announce my lateness and have the secretary sign me in. After six years of being late, I figured the office had already invested in a rubber stamp with my name on it like our princi-"PAL" had for signing the perfect attendance certificates I never received.

You’d stay home from school a lot too if you had my sixth grade teacher. Mrs. Lipton was horrible in a way that only teachers can be. She looked like Old Mother Hubbard and she smelt like the old woman who lived in her shoe. She had so many children in her class, she didn’t know what to do. Originally, a kindergarten teacher, she was made into a sixth grade teacher when there was a shortage of fat women to teach the multiplication table to kids who’d rather be playing soccer (soccer was huge at my school), and she had absolutely no patience for anyone over four feet, especially me, it seemed.

I’d stumble into my classroom, if I ended up going to school at all, right about the time our vice principal would be leading the student body in the pledge over the load speaker and Mrs. Lipton would shake her head at me, “Late again, Princess?” This was her ‘pet name’ for me. I also overheard her call me a JAP once to another teacher; that’s “Jewish American Princess” to all you goys out there. On the playground, ‘bitch’ was my pet name for her. “You won’t be able to do this in middle school,” she’d mutter.

She was wrong. I could, and more importantly, did, do it in middle school and again in high school. I just needed a note from my doctor to do it. Or rather, I made stationary on my computer, printed it out and had my mother sign it illegibly. Look, unless Ty Pennington is slurring outside my window into a megaphone that my house has won an Extreme Home Make-over, I just do not see the point in getting up early. Not even for finals. Twice in high school I slept through final exams, so twice my Aunt Lydia died. She died once when I slept through my math final and once again three years later when I slept through my English final my Senior year. In reality, I didn’t even have an Aunt Lydia, but my English teacher sent a really lovely sympathy card in which she quoted Shakespeare because she really wanted to believe I did.

If you look in my yearbooks, no matter what grade I was in, and ignore all the ‘have a kick ass summer’s and the ‘you’re awesome, never change!’s, you’re bound to find an entry from a teacher that says something like, ‘You were a wonderful student! I only wish I had seen you in class more often!’ The teachers seemed to like me even though some of them may have thought I was a figment of their imagination.

This is no exception in college.

I realize its my own fault that my professors, like the one I have for my Lesbian 100 course (which is actually a Women’s Studies course, but my teacher is gay and only talks about her relationship with her girlfriend who looks like a boyfriend- we saw photos) even notice in a class of five-hundred, that I am missing in action on a regular basis. It’s because I’m a big class participator. I don’t mean to be! I just love voicing my opinion so damn much. I like to think I add a certain je ne sais quoi to the mix. I’m one of the good vocal people, though. I’m not like “Chrissy with two esses like in ‘senioritis’.” I didn’t use my hands to speak to distract my professor from the fact that I didn’t know what the fuck I was talking about in our Women’s Studies class and I didn’t think I was The Office’s Dwight to our professor’s Michael. I said witty things that were on topic and usually included a pop-culture reference, I was intelligent, and I was cute. These were all things Chrissy-With-Two-Esses-Like-In-‘Senioritis’ did not have going for her.

Chrissy-With-Two-Esses-Like-In-‘Senioritis’ is the kind of student who thinks they’re clever and witty, except they are not. When our Lesbian 100 professor, Jill Novak (a lesbian-y-er name there never was) said she would probably have trouble remembering how to spell Chrissy properly, Chrissy-With-Two-Esses-Like-In-‘Senioritis’ said, “Remember it because it has two esses. Like in ‘senioritis’!”
I turn to Ally, “More like Schutzstaffel!”
Ally’s eyes go wide and she nods, agreeing with me, then whispers, “Also, she has bad hair.”

Ally is the Ashley to my Mary-Kate and a fellow student of the Regis and Kelly is on at Nine in the Morning and Even That’s so Much Better Than Learning Crap School of Thought. We’re just two years away from graduating with our degrees in Pop Culture with an emphasis in Starbucks. Technically, we’ve known each other since high school, but only because we met each other outside the nurse’s office briefly before either of us had cell phones and had to fake sick in order to gain access to a phone with which we could call our mother’s to come pick us up from third hour. She told me she liked my Audrey Hepburn bag. I told her I liked her hair. Now that we are in college together, we have taken our habit of ditching class to the university.

On days when we don’t want to go to class, Ally usually texts me just early enough in the morning that its still a little too early. “I’m not going to class today,” her text say simply. The short, shrill beeps of the phone greet me at that brief moment between wake and sleep where blowing off your future seems like the perfect companion to your five-dollar latte.

I have one eye open when I text Ally back with one hand, “me either.” No caps. Simple. Just right. It conveys my laziness on this Tuesday morning. Then I drop my phone onto my side table and turn off my alarm so I can sleep the next couple of hours. Just like a real college student.

I know Ally’s method all too well. It’s the same fool-proof one I used on my mother when I was ten and didn’t want to go to Hebrew school on a Sunday; I’d wake her up just before she actually had to get up and tell her I didn’t want to go to Hebrew school. “Fine,” she’d grumble in her sleep, “But you’re going next week.”

Today however, I texted her about ten minutes before I was supposed to actually pick her up on our way to school, “I just woke up. JUST WOKE UP!” I write.
She texts me back almost instantly, “Haha that’s fine! I didn’t really want to go to class anyway.”

We hardly ever do.

The rare day when Ally and I actually do roll into class relatively on time, it means we have to drive past our old high school on the way to The University of Lesbian Town. At a red light, the two of us stare at the acned boys in their bright purple and white school pride colors, running like Juno’s Paulie Bleeker around the track.
“Oh, that is one place I’d never want to go back to,” I shudder.
“Can you imagine seven hours of school? Every day? Even Fridays?” Ally shakes her head dramatically.
“Not if you’re us,” I answer, as the light turns green.
“How we passed high school without actually going more than one full day a month is beyond me,” Ally sighs.

I’m not really sure either. I was hardly ever there. When you add up all the days and classes I’ve skipped, it probably would total about a full year of schooling that I’m missing. This is the completely opposite of my former classmate Jessica Oilandey, who never missed a day of classes in her entire life; from our first day of kindergarten to our last day of high school. Obviously, she’s not Jewish so she never had to miss because she was busy fasting and obviously, her mother doesn’t love her enough to pluck her out of advanced chem class just to go shopping. And, apparently, she must be a morning person. Something I never was really and probably never will be.

I have to believe its genetic, since my mother isn’t a morning person either and back when she used to have to drive me to school, I can recall early mornings where she’d slap herself to keep awake while going forty miles per hour on a main road or when she forgot to stop for a red light until she was halfway through the intersection so cars had to maneuver around us to get by. My fear of death is why I don’t take a class before nine AM now. I have a feeling I’d fall back asleep and end up like Mary Jo Kopechne in the Chappaquiddick incident.

My Women’s Studies course starts at nine thirty in the morning though, so I don’t have a lot of room to make excuses. I just hate going to this class. In short, I took this class thinking I’d get to read a lot about Anne Sexton and Gloria Steinem, but all my professor seems to cover is the history of her own lesbian affairs. If I wanted to learn about lesbians, I would watch The L Word, but I could never get into it. Nothing against lesbians or Jennifer Beals, I love Ellen and plaid, but it just wasn’t my thing. So I stopped TiVoing the show, and Ally and I stopped going to class, pretty much.

“Nice of you to show up!” our professor shouts at us when we walk in, late, and take a seat after not showing up to class for two sessions in a row. The first time we skipped purposely, the second I had a horrible period cramp that I figured only a Midol spiked tall sugar free half caf vanilla latte could fix.
“Us?” I point to Ally, then to myself.
“Yes,” Jill, as she let us call her, folds her thick as tree trunk arms in front of her big as a house chest while she sits on her huge ass. “I like it when you guys come to class. You always participate.”
Later, Ally tells me she must think of us as one person because she never participated, explaining that I may as well have been Penn and she Teller, because she did nothing but nod as I spoke.
“Come to class more often,” Jill says, “You are averaging about once a week.”
“Hey, when you only go twice a week, that’s not bad…” I mumble under my breath.
“Can you be here more often?” She asks.
Ally and I are silent.
“Um, I think that’s a no,” Chrissy-With-Two-Esses-Like-In-‘Senioritis’ says from across the room.
I fucking hate Chrissy-With-Two-Esses-Like-In-‘Senioritis’.
“In all honesty,” I say, “On Tuesday, We had food poisoning.”
Ally sits fuck faced: totally and completely blank. She doesn’t even shudder at the ludicrousness of my lying. We both try to will our blood to the center of our stomach, so we look even paler than we really already are from our lack of sun exposure. We’re too busy shopping online to go anywhere and get our vitamin D.
“We were sick,” I say again for good measure. “Bad chicken. In all honesty.”
Jill looks to Ally who should change her name to Stone Wall Jackson and sighs, “OK.”
Later, as we’re leaving, I turn to Ally and ask, “Did you believe me in there, because, I didn’t.”
Ally shakes her head no.

That week, I learned a little something that Ally apparently knew for a while… I am the worst liar around. We also decided that even though that class might be horrible, at least we have class. Next semester, we promise to make more of an effort to learn stuff… Maybe.

Monday, April 28, 2008

"That's cutting your nose to spite your face."

Hi. Can we talk?


I'm turning twenty-one soon, and I'm having a bit of an early twenties existential who-am-I-does-my-life-matter-crisis.




I'm just a little worried about my future.


I seem to be taking turning twenty-one like most women take turning fifty. I had a motherfucking hot flash today. I am not even kidding.



The intense sweating got so bad, I finally just had to own up to it.



Yep. That stinky, wet girl is me!



Oh well, I am looking forward to the future! A future where Frangelicca is legal for me!




Who am I kidding? I'm probably gonna sit home and get my book on.



But lord knows, I should take my shirt's advice. Because sometimes you should just say, "what the fuck."


P.S. Brian made this for me and it is amazing.

Thursday, April 24, 2008

"I think I hurt my sweet tooth."

All my life, all 20.11 ¾ years of it, all I’ve wanted to be is older. In pre-school I was pretending my cubby was a locker. In first grade I made my own paper “schedule”, being sure to block out when we had “sustained silent reading”, mathematics, social studies, lunch, and free time. In high school I day dreamed in English class about being somewhere far away and Ivy League-y where I could wear plaid sweaters and loafers every day un-ironically, and now in college I fantasize about already being a famous author and no where near any place that revolves around a Greek system and fancy Latin words like “Magna cum Laude” that sound kinda dirty and ultimately get turned into an innuendo by some (fat and hairy) frat asshole alluding to wanting to get into my pants.

Don’t get me wrong, college is fun(ish). There are a few aspects of college life I wouldn’t trade for all the Miller Light in the world: the one class a day option, all the free time, the pretentious label that comes with my soon-to-be English degree, that whole the world is my oyster thing. That stuff, as my friend Robyn would say, is freakin’ rad. But there are a few things I miss about pre-college life.

“Want to go grab coffee?” I ask a friend of mine who has already been twenty-one for a few months now.
“Uh,” he hesitates. “Man, I wish you were old enough to go to a bar or something. I barely even drink coffee anymore. I haven’t had coffee since like Freshman year of college.”
“What? Are you Mormon now or something?” I ask.
“No,” he shrugs, “I just go to bars now instead of Starbucks to pick up girls.”

What happened to trying to find the shitty house-party that resulted in an endless drive, a fabulous soundtrack, and an epic adventure of some sort nearly every time? What happened to just seeing a movie with a friend without having to go get drunk afterward? I would like to go back to a time where I wasn’t seen as a loser just because I was home in time to see the new Saturday Night Live. It makes me kind of miss the days when sitting at home or at a Starbucks drinking coffee all night and just talking was fine.

Almost.

Because, if that were totally true, I guess I’d be saying that I miss high school, and let me assure you that that is most certainly a false statement.

When I was in high school, which seems like forever ago already, I was seriously confused about what kind of person I was. I would like to say that I always spoke with this Juno McGuff lilt and my hair always looked grand, but I was a hot mess who lifted lines from Scrubs back before the Zach Braff backlash and no matter how I threw myself at guys, just couldn’t seem to get any of the straight ones to date me. It probably had something to do with this little Jerry McGuire-esque manifesto I printed in our school newspaper about how I was going to “Jessica Simpson my way through high school” and keep my virginity. And for four years I had to wonder why I, self-proclaimed professional virgin, couldn’t seem to get a date from a guy who wasn’t in the closet.

Gee. I wonder.

The lack of straight guys professing their love to me convinced me I should secure a gay escort to my prom. From what I recall, my date only went with me because I wore a designer dress that I am pretty sure he wanted to try on, but regardless, I had fun, and I think he did, too. We did all the things regular prom dates do, except for that whole American Pie getting laid thing. But what he lacked in straight-boy love for me he made up for in dancing ability. Basically, we rocked it on the makeshift dance floor that Student Government set up on the dirt at the zoo where our prom was held. Also, my hair looked fantastic, and that’s all that really matters.

Prom seemed like a distant memory, though, one I’d pleasantly surrendered to my subconscious, never to recall again, until when at Safeway one early Saturday morning, the overly pierced, early-twenties, and overweight cashier asked me if I was excited for Prom.
I slid my debit card in the reader to pay for my Cheerios, Elle, and gum. I chew gum like Paulie Bleeker eats Tic-Tacs. “Pardon?” I ask.
“For prom,” he repeats. “You excited?”
“I’m almost twenty-one,” I answer.
The cashier squints at me, “You don’t look a day over sixteen.”

I suppose I should have been pleased, happy to have young features since I already scrutinize myself in front of the mirror looking for crows feet and laugh lines and other things I want Botoxed, but it just brought up all of the mixed feelings I have about turning twenty-one.

It’s just that I’m just getting worried. I’m turning twenty-one soon. Really soon. Like in less than a week soon, and this shit is on. This is the real deal you know? Screw Bat mitzvahs. Barack Obama Adoni, I am Twenty-one. And that’s the day I become a woman. Its the day my acne becomes "adult acne", the day my parents stop getting a tax refund for me, the day my insurance is lowered. It’s the age when random hook-ups should not just be an odd occurrence, they should be the norm, or at least this is what MTV tells me. Oh yeah, all this plus, the added bonus of being able to get my drink on legally. Not that I will. I've jokingly told everyone that my birthday will have the theme of "sobriety" because, chances are, even with my sparkling new adult status I will probably still be hanging out at home watching the TiVo and drinking Vitamin Water instead of going out on the town.

“Come hang out with some friends and me on my birthday!” I invite my friend David. “You’ll get to see me totally fucking sober at a classy restaurant.”
“Oh,” he snorts, “That’ll be a nice change. Hey, maybe one day do you want to act your age?”
“Maybe,” I reply. But let’s be honest, probably not.